Internet Backs Sister Telling Twin She Should Have Attended College

The internet has sided with a woman who shared that she had told her twin sister she should have gone to college to get a better life.

The 33-year-old woman using the handle u/Fickle_Spinach_3415 shared the story which has since received more than 13,000 upvotes and hundreds of comments.

“We come from a culture where arranged marriages are an option (not India),” she said. “Mostly they are blind dates set by a matchmaker and if you are compatible you marry. When we both graduated high school, my sister chose not to attend college. She asked for an arranged marriage since all she wanted was to be a wife and mother (nothing wrong with that). My parents (who are a love match) tried to convince her to at least get her bachelor’s. She refused. I on the other hand started attending an engineering college.”

The woman explained that a year later her sister married a man met through a matchmaker. “He is a very nice man and treats my sister like a queen,” she said. “The thing is he was just a freshly hired teacher. My sister went from living in a double income house with parents both being high earners to a single income on a teacher’s salary.”

After graduating at 23, the Reddit user says she started working in the cyber security department for a big bank and married two years later through an arranged marriage to a real estate developer.

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The internet has backed a woman after she told her sister she should have attended college for a better life. A file photo of an argument between two sisters.
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“My sister didn’t like him from the get-go,” she explained. “She even threw a tantrum (thankfully in private) at my wedding.”

Problems between the twins arose when the Redditor signed her child up for private school. “The monthly tuition is more than her husband makes,” she said. “When she heard this she just exploded. She was ranting about how it’s not fair that our kids will not have equal opportunities, how the only reason I live like I do was that my parents chose a better husband for me.”

Angry at her sister, the Reddit user explains that she “laid the truth on her.”

“I told her I got matched with a better husband because I am a college-educated woman with a respectable job, and that wealthy men using matchmakers don’t want 19 years old high school graduates, their standards are higher.”

The Redditor explained that her sister was now not speaking to her, and told her that she was “an elitist a**hole.”

According to the Pew Research Center, nearly four in ten Americans aged 25 and over have a bachelor’s degree. In 2021, 39 percent of women 25 and older had a bachelor’s degree or some form of further education, compared with 37 percent of men in the same age range.

There is also evidence of a growing earnings gap between young college graduates and their counterparts without degrees. In 2021, full-time workers aged 22–27 who held a bachelor’s degree alone made an average annual wage of $52,000 compared with $30,000 for full-time employees of the same age with a high school diploma and no degree.

Reddit users overwhelmingly sided with the poster, telling her that she was NTA (not the a**hole).

“She’s jealous/envious of your life because you decided to go through college and became successful,” said one commenter.

Meanwhile, another Redditor said: “You’re NTA. Truth hurts,” and one commenter wrote: “You were harsh, but she’s acting like a spoiled and entitled brat and being extremely rude to pretty much everyone.”

But another user said she felt for the sister, too: “I really feel for your sister. Really important decisions get made when people are far too young to understand how much money matters.”

Newsweek has reached out to u/Fickle_Spinach_3415 for comment.

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